Lately I have been listening to the audio companion from “Teaching from Rest”. I know, I know, I have been going on and on about this book. But really. I can see now that God totally is using this book to answer the desperate prayers I had been praying for awhile now.
Anyways, the author, Sarah Mackenzie, does 4 podcasts as an audio companion for the book. They are all excellent, but the one I listened to yesterday I had to stop every few minutes so I could catch up my note-taking. I was scribbling tidbits as fast as I could. This was Cindy Rollins, a mom of 9 kids-8 of whom are boys.
Several things I wrote down:
—“Education isn’t the accumulation of facts. It’s the ordering of affections. The ordering of loves.”
—“The #1 thing I wanted was for my children to love the Lord their God with all their heart, mind, soul and strength. This was a good desire. But much anxiety came from it because I presented it from a place of fear rather than love. As in, ” I’m afraid you aren’t going to serve God…” rather than a love for them and their souls. ….And I became very vulnerable to taking control of things that are outside my sphere of sovereignty. “
—“I’m not sovereign over their souls-God is.”
—“Often we see our children as projects… What do we need to work on next, how can we fix this flaw, this sin tendency in their lives. But with some kids, no matter what you try, it may not work. So instead, focus on presenting the Gospel. This is all we really have to be concerned about.”
—(When thinking of schooling and especially with boys) — “Contemplate imperviousness. Impervious means incapable of being influenced, persuaded, or affected. All boys have a drive to power, and they will bring all the force of their personality and logic to influence Mom to his way of thinking. So we must be impervious! We are not required to answer to the logic of our children. We can tell them “That’s all well and good, and you may be perfectly right, but here’s how we’re going to do it. I’m impervious to your logic.” The drive for power isn’t a bad thing – and with boys, it’s simply a part of their makeup. BUT! We are the Mom and we don’t have to follow the same rules.
—Moms, have courage! Be aware that God has led you and will continue!
These thoughts are resonating over and over with me. Homeschooling is just not nearly so complicated as what I’ve thought in the past. That doesn’t mean it’s not hard – it is. But I’m not required to make our days look like someone else’s, I’m not required to make our school look like a formal school setting.
What I want to do is order the loves and affections of my children. To show them beauty and inspiration and relationship. I want to trust God to lead my days. I want to keep identifying the birds at our bird feeder. I want to read aloud to them and hear them read out loud to me and revel in the sight of my boys reading out loud to their sisters. I want to do Math on the front porch in the sunshine like we did last week. I want to read poetry out loud and memorize Scripture together and let them go outside to play if we get done early rather than try to cram another lesson in.
I want to be restful in the chaos because I know God’s got this thing.
It’s amazing the things God brings to give us courage for our way- a book, a podcast, a Bible verse, a few well-timed words from a friend… It’s not random.
It is our part to offer what we can, His to finish what we cannot.” – St. Jerome